Change is Inevitable. What if the change is Negative?

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“You’re not the same individual you were a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago. You’re always growing. Experiences don’t stop. That’s life.”

Nothing is permanent and change is an inevitable phenomenon of life. It is so natural that we all change and grow with time due to our experiences in life. Every day we learn something from outer as well as the inner world of our own wisdom and intellect. We can never be the same person throughout our life span as we are evolving continuously.

But what if you found that your better version was all gone and now after so many years you have completely changed as a person with so many flaws and negativity in thoughts. You have grown in a number of years and even experiences but all that have turned you into a pessimistic person. Once you were full of life and optimism, now living a dull and negative life. All these years you were confident about everything in life. But circumstances have changed in your life and taken away all the confidence from you. Now you are completely a different person, optimism, zeal to live life, excitement, all gone. Now you have changed and become a stranger to your own reflection. Pain in heart and an empty space that you think nobody can fill.

But do you think that it is a fact, No! it is just that you have lost logical reasoning and overwhelmed with negative emotions that you are unable to control or manage. Do you think at this point of life you have stopped growing? Of course not, one can never stop growing and this is not the end. It is just that the circumstances of your life have shaken your belief and you have forgotten your own strength and power. And believe me, this state is not permanent and nor is your current behavior and thought process. Your vision becomes clear if you consciously try to look within the very core of self, where your all the power and strength lies. This phase will be over and even from this phase you are going to learn something new that adds more experience to your life.

We all as an individual continuously evolving, no matter what the situation is we are learning and growing every minute. Change is inevitable and what we are today we will not be the same in future. As Heraclitus quoted, Nothing is permanent but change.

During our lifetime we all go through difficult situations and sometimes it happens that our failure, negative experience, negative event or current circumstances in life tremble our faith in ourselves. Our thoughts become negative and we start doubting our own strengths and stop believing in our unlimited power. Negative feelings of helplessness, depression, anger, guilt, frustration overpower us and our approach towards life become pessimistic. Pessimistic thinking makes a person weak and feeling of despair and helplessness arise. But even then life never stops nor our growth. Even in our pessimistic outlook we never stop looking for the ray of hope to overcome the negativity in life. We seek happiness and desperately crave to get rid of this state.

The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt.

~Max Lerner~

So if you find it difficult to empower yourself on your own, it is always better to approach others to come out of this negative state of mind.  To seek emotional support and share your feelings with someone whom you can confide in will be the best step. You can take help from your family, friends or even from a professional. Sharing and talking about your feelings and thoughts will eventually help you to come out of the vicious cycle of your own negative thoughts.

You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.
~Ralph Marston~

Our negative, as well as positive experiences of life, give us an opportunity to grow and learn. We never stop living our life despite having good or bad times. We always strive to become a better person all the moments of our lifetime. Change enhances the quality of our life by adding multiple colors which vary from dull to vibrant and make us a different person. Life is a beautiful journey of our unique experiences and we are growing and changing every moment. Change is the way of life and this makes our life beautiful and more meaningful.

Stay Happy and Never Give Up!

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Dr. Rachna Arora is the co-founder of Thehappywomen.com, an online platform to empower, motivate and inspire women to live happily. A Psychologist by profession, Dr. Rachna Arora provides online counselling to women of all ages. Her passion to help and empower women blends with her profession very well. She feels highly satisfied in helping women assert themselves and helps them understand their needs and preferences in life so that they become truly empowered. She is the co-author of the book, ‘Indian Women and the Shaadi Conundrum’ which is a self-help book for women to effectively cope up with the pre and post wedding challenges.

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