Anamika a short story. #BeBoldForChange

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Anamika

Life is mysterious. You never know what it stores in future. Anamika was born in a very loving family. Loving parents, loving siblings, and relatives who loved her very much. She grew up in a family where everyone was supportive. All family members helped and encouraged her to fulfill all her dreams. She was living her life like a princess where everyone respected her and held her in a high esteem. She was living a life of her dreams. All her wishes and desires fulfilled with her sincere efforts and with the support of family.

But, her life had completely changed after marriage. She had dreamt of awesome things that would happen in her life. Initially, everything seemed so lovely, full of romance. But, she never knew what will come next in this new phase of life. She could never have imagined that the life she was dreaming of has no place in her real life.

Her new family had no space for her dreams and desires. First, she had to give up her dream profession and take up another job, then there were restrictions imposed on her. Her new family members were indifferent to her feelings. Being a daughter-in-law she was forced to live a life more like a slave. She had to do everything according to the commands of in-laws and husband. She had to take permission for doing even the tiniest of things. She was in a situation from where there was no looking back and no bright future.

She started feeling herself in shackles and there was nowhere to run away. She started adjusting to new rules and regulations, with new norms totally opposite from her own home. With each passing day, she tried to adjust and adjust silently. But, all she got in return was taunts and indifferent attitude. Her husband sometimes beat her up in a fit of rage and the very next morning confessed mistakes and promised not to repeat it again and every time she swayed in emotions and forgave him for being rude, abusive and assaulting.

She was fulfilling all her responsibilities and duties towards family members and kids. But, even after that, she got insults only. Being a working woman she was managing all the expenses for the house. But, she never got the respect and credit, and nobody was concerned for her.

Time just passed with the hope of her circumstances getting better one day. But that ‘One Day’ never came. Her condition was becoming more and more miserable. Life still went on the same track. She felt helpless and did not know what to do where to go. She could not even go back to her own family where she was born and brought up, because of hypocrite society. She felt like committing suicide. She was completely shattered inside yet she went on with life and fulfilling her responsibilities. Her bright life was all ruined because of this new chapter of marriage in life.

In India majority of women (daughters-in-law) share the story of Anamika. This is a very common scenario in our society. All well educated, financially independent women are facing this and are forcing themselves to live with it. Struggling and suffering in silence because of “hypocrite society” and its norms. They spend their lives under the dominance of husband and in-laws thinking that everything will be alright one day. Golden years of life pass in hope for a better tomorrow. Nobody knows when that tomorrow will come into their lives, if it ever comes.

This poem is for all the Anamikas that live in our society. My advice to every woman who is living under these circumstances is to not spoil your present in a hope for better future. Fight for your rights now. Be bold and voice out for your rights. Do not succumb to the fear or pressure of any kind. Let your voice be heard. It’s your birthright to live freely and happily.
#BeBoldForChange

To Live Happily Is Your Birthright

Never suffer in silence

In hope for a better tomorrow

When not even sure of the very next moment

Live your life in the present scenario

Try to come out of the cage

Fight for your rights and do not restrain

Don’t remain captive anymore

Never surrender to any unjust behaviour

Recognize your inner strength

Empower yourself with lots of confidence

No one will come to your rescue

Better you realize this reality sooner

You are no less than anyone

Prove yourself to this world

Live your life to the fullest

You can surely win this battle

Tread on the path of karma yoga

Go and get all your rights

Don’t bear the pain in the name of society

Following the herd blindly is not so wise

Challenge these narrow societal norms

There is nothing to be feared of

When you know deep inside your heart

To live happily is your birthright.

If you or someone you know is struggling in married life, then you got to read the book ‘Indian Women and The Shaadi Conundrum’ and recommend it to other women. It is a self-help book which will enrich every woman with the tips and suggestions to cope up with the challenges of married life. This book will help a woman to take control of her life and become truly empowered.

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Dr. Rachna Arora is the co-founder of Thehappywomen.com, an online platform to empower, motivate and inspire women to live happily. A Psychologist by profession, Dr. Rachna Arora provides online counselling to women of all ages. Her passion to help and empower women blends with her profession very well. She feels highly satisfied in helping women assert themselves and helps them understand their needs and preferences in life so that they become truly empowered. She is the co-author of the book, 'Indian Women and the Shaadi Conundrum' which is a self-help book for women to effectively cope up with the pre and post wedding challenges.

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  1. Arpana
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    Nice

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      The Happy Women
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      Thanks

  2. Rene Farrell
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    To do away with Patriarchal setup and educating girls can go a long way in addressing women issues

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